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Monday, December 14, 2009

Experiencing Christmas

Before Mr. Goodbar and I even had children we discussed how we wanted Christmas to be and how we intended on handling it with our future children; we have adapted and added to that plan as our family grows and we grow as Christians.

We want Junior Mint to understand not just the true meaning of Christmas, but the whole concept of the world verses Christians. He needs to understand that just because other people have twenty-five presents under the tree doesn’t mean he needs that many. We feel a few is more than sufficient or that just because someone else has very expensive gifts doesn’t make them better than a gift from the heart! His life will be full of things that we will have to explain that just because someone else does something, it doesn’t make it okay!

A big one for us is gratitude! People have forgotten what that words means, I’m not even sure it is in Webster’s anymore!!! He needs to understand that it is NOT and NEVER will be appropriate or accepted that he gets mad or upset at not getting what he wants!! We want him to understand that presents are not the focus of Christmas! Present are a privilege, not a right!!

I know a lot of parents say they love to see the “joy their kids have” when they open gifts…however I believe they love the joy they feel at picking out a great gift for their child (and I use the term joy very loosely there). We want Junior Mint to understand that there is NO joy that comes in a box wrapped under a tree or comes with a FROM tag. The only true joy that he will feel will be from the Lord!

We want Junior Mint to understand that you don’t behave between Thanksgiving and Christmas because Santa is watching; you behave all year because God requires obedience! There is no “pitching fits” at the thought of having to wait to open presents until AFTER we eat or until Mommy/Daddy take care of a few things. Obedience and patience are requirements from God!

Now, I do understand that there are probably a lot of people reading this thinking that “well, she will see it’s different when he gets a little older and all he cares about is that new toy”…no you see, we feel that isn’t an attitude they develop on their own. That attitude is planted and cultivated! Now…for the half of you that didn’t check out after that…..

We have spent over two years expressing our views/plans about Christmas and how we want our children to experience it. I think that no matter how we put it, we can’t quite get the point across. I heard an illustration used in our sermon yesterday that was perfect. It sums up EXACTLY how we want Junior Mint (and the little nugget and any future children after) to feel about Christmas. I really hope that when you read this you will stop and think…not just about your kids, but about how you treat Christmas!!


Christmas morning a little girl sat in a living room. After opening all the presents, her mom looked at her and asked “Honey, did you get everything you wanted for Christmas?” The little girl responded, “NO, but it isn’t my birthday”!!

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Your opinion can only be expressed if you agree with me!

First off, sorry for the massive amounts of time that seem to be passing between my posts recently. Between the holidays, taking care of Junior Mint, being so tired and housework I struggle to find time to throw up (which is very often at this point)!

Moving on, if any of you are on Facebook and see my comments you will understand where this is coming from, for those of you who aren't, let me give you a little insight! I often post OPINIONS as my statuses and have recently come under fire for some of those. It started with a comment about Grey's Anatomy and more recently started a "firestorm" with a comment about Thanksgiving being a day to thank God. This all has really made me extremely frustrated with our country.

Why is it that Christians seem to come under fire for personal opinions but (for lack of a better term) liberals* seem to be able to say anything they want and we have to accept it? (Just for the record I don't believe you can be a true Christian and a true liberal at the same time.) Why is it what they say is "being politically correct" but what we say is being judgmental?

It really bothers me that they can degrade our holidays and traditions and mold them into what they want but we can't even say that Christmas is about Christ. Mr. Goodbar and I recently heard the news interview someone about the Gap ad (refer to my previous post if you don't know what I am talking about) and they said that "we" (Christians) need to understand that Christmas is an "all-inclusive" holiday now and more than Christians celebrate it and we shouldn't exclude non-Christians. Please explain that to me....without Christ there would be NO CHRISTmas!! How has Christmas become an all-inclusive holiday? Why do we, Christians, have to be the ones to concede to everyone else?

I'm so tired of the message that "Your opinion can only be expressed if you agree with me" that is being sent out by liberals (and I really don't like that term, but what other term would be better here). Why is my opinion so wrong but they are so right? Why can't I voice my opinion without being attacked as being judgmental? What has happened to our nation?

What has happened to Christianity?



*I do not use the term liberal and democrat synonymously. The term liberal is used with beliefs that typically contradict Christian beliefs.